The secret of online love revealed

By Mark O’Neill

If you’re looking to strike lucky in online dating, you should take great care in what username you use. That’s the conclusion of a new research which will be presented to the British Psychological Society’s annual conference in Dublin today.

It seems that cute cuddly names like “fun2bwith” or “i’msweet” are the top choices, while materialistic ones like “wealthyandwise”, “lovemyporsche” or “entrepreneur” are big turn-offs. I wonder how geeky ones like “defragmyharddrive” would get on then?

I’ve had a bit of experience with online dating before I settled down with my current partner, Monika. I met Monika through Yahoo Chat but before she and I met, the rest of the online dating was a complete and utter disaster. One woman announced to me on our first meeting that we were engaged to be married, that the church was booked and she had already told her parents, while another told me that there was an “eerie glow around me” and perhaps I should consider exorcism. I was about to double-check that I hadn’t stumbled into the “Lunatics Central” chatroom when Monika popped in, we ended up talking for 4 hours and… well, many years later, we’re still together.

Do any of you have online dating stories you’d like to share? Any tips, secrets, disasters? Did you meet the love of your life via the keyboard?  Do you know someone who did?   What was YOUR username on the dating site?

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6 Responses to The secret of online love revealed

  1. I've got a friend, who's reading this blog by the way, who met his wife 10 years ago on a site called "reseau contact"… and they're still together today, and happily married too!

    -She got pregnant about a month after they met.

    -They got married 6 months later.

    Since this friend had a fairly good salary, and he made it public on the site (You could publish a range of how much you were earning per year) , I got mightily pissed at him, thinking the girl would want to meet him just for the money, but I was wrong! She's one of the nicest people I've ever met. :)

    But before he met her, he had to deal with a bunch of nutcases. I'll leave it up to him to tell his story if he feels like it.

    I've got 2-3 other friends who met girls on the web and who are still with them today.

  2. I’ve got a friend, who’s reading this blog by the way, who met his wife 10 years ago on a site called “reseau contact”… and they’re still together today, and happily married too!

    -She got pregnant about a month after they met.
    -They got married 6 months later.

    Since this friend had a fairly good salary, and he made it public on the site (You could publish a range of how much you were earning per year) , I got mightily pissed at him, thinking the girl would want to meet him just for the money, but I was wrong! She’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met. :)

    But before he met her, he had to deal with a bunch of nutcases. I’ll leave it up to him to tell his story if he feels like it.

    I’ve got 2-3 other friends who met girls on the web and who are still with them today.

  3. I knew my fiancée 14 months ago from a penpal site. She was living in France and me in Italy. Our first face-to-face meeting happened 4 months later. I moved to France to live together after 8 months and we are waiting our first baby for next october. I can say that Internet helped to aproximate each other, but the love came from our real meetings. And, the decision to move was necessary since we were feeling that a long distance relationship with daily internet contact was getting bored.

  4. I knew my fiancée 14 months ago from a penpal site. She was living in France and me in Italy. Our first face-to-face meeting happened 4 months later. I moved to France to live together after 8 months and we are waiting our first baby for next october. I can say that Internet helped to aproximate each other, but the love came from our real meetings. And, the decision to move was necessary since we were feeling that a long distance relationship with daily internet contact was getting bored.

  5. For me whether the two of you met online or not as long as you are compatible, there's no question about it. Love may sprout in different manners. Just be sure not to end up with a lunatic or half insane person and be sure to know each other better:)

  6. For me whether the two of you met online or not as long as you are compatible, there’s no question about it. Love may sprout in different manners. Just be sure not to end up with a lunatic or half insane person and be sure to know each other better:)

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