Just turn around, Fellas! I promise we’re out there!
Not relevant, the one is the one…
And if “the one” doesn’t reciprocate, then build a bridge and quit whining about it.
Uh really. Cause when I turn around and see nothing. I must be doing something wrong.
So if I can’t get a girl I like to feel the same way about me, I should just whore myself out to whatever women I find to fill the empty void inside my heart. This is great advice!
If you’re whoring yourself out by dating, then yes.
I gotta agree with most of the above comments. Simply saying “find somebody else” isn’t exactly fair. That’s just an amazing example of “no empathy.” Yeah, the friendzone sucks, and yeah, many times it’s the person’s own fault. A lot of other times, however, it’s due to something beyond their control. I mean, would you like it if you had your heart set on somebody, they were the only one you loved, and they never loved you back? And then some ass walks along and says “Find somebody else, you loser,” as if all other options were exactly interchangeable, as if love was some fungible commodity? Well, let me say, love is not a quarter that you find on the street and put in your pocket. It’s a rare, fragile flower, one that can rarely be found, and rarely can be kept. A tulip is not a rose. The tulip may be sweet-smelling, the tulip may be beautiful, but the tulip is not, and never will be a rose.
Love is not one sided. If you “love” someone and they don’t love you back, you’re just infatuated and obsessed with the idea of being with them. You need to know a person much deeper and closer than that to be able to claim to love them; and if you have never been in a relationship with them, it’s doubtful that you know him/her enough to say you love them.
And no, love isn’t just found on the street. But it’s also not a freaking lottery where you pick your “perfect mate” out of a hat. To use your analogy, it’s like cultivating a rare flower. In other words, it is a long and arduous project that requires TWO people to grow. You don’t decide who “the one” is by window shopping and waiting passively from the sidelines. You know the one after years of knowing each other so intimately that you know him/her as well if not better than yourself.
Not true in my case, and I don’t have a ‘One’ that I’m pining after either.
Life isn’t fair. Yes it sucks and yes it’s hard to get passed, but if you truly and honestly care about the person who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings towards them, then you’ll want to see them happy, no matter if it’s with you or some body else. Playing the friend zone pity card is not going to attract the attention that you want (believe me I’ve been there).
Also who knows, once you take your focus off that one person, you’ll notice a whole plethora of people who you normally wouldn’t have given a chance, could fill your needs.
All else fails and you’re still stuck on that one person, maybe them seeing you with another male/female will make them realize that you can be more then just a friend.
While of course not having the “one” you have your heart set on hurts, it’s something that happens (to both sexes.) It sucks. It hurts. Sometime he or she just isn’t into you, for any number of reasons (bad timing, bad chemistry, out of your league.) But unless you’re prepared to pine away (silently) the comic has it right. There are other women in the world beside the one you idolized. Mourn, cry, whatever. But then stop. Take stock to make sure you’re presenting the best possible ‘you’ to the world, Then move on.
The “friend zone” doesn’t exist. She just doesn’t like you and wants to be with someone else. Women are not a commodity to be owned or attained; move on and stop being creepy.
Yeah… I got in the “friendzone” once. I took it hard, like everybody does. Then I met a girl who almost friendzoned me but I learned from the past and now she is my girlfriend. “The one” does not exist, it’s more like “The few”. There are more people you have an amazing connection with. It’s not about whoring out, you can love more than one person. Even when you’re married for 30 years to your “soulmate” you can still find an other person you can fall in love with. It’s a fact. Now don’t be stubborn but let other people in. You can feel your lonelines and self pity fade away when you embrace the love of an other person.
I had a rather sizeable comment for the “Pity us, we’re friend-zoned, you umempathetic meanies!” crowd and then I realized that you’d said it all in so many words. :)
Too funny. Almost fell off of my chair.