Why You Should Date a Geek Guy [Video]

The Gay Comic Geek gives you a run down of the pros and cons of dating a geek guy. While it is in the context of the gay geek, there’s plenty there that’s relevant to geek men in general. Or do you disagree? I think he might be generalising the qualities of geek boys just a little too much here. What do you think?

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13 Responses to Why You Should Date a Geek Guy [Video]

  1. I love social geeks! It's a rare species! :D I only date geeks though. Seriously, they can always make you laugh and show you interesting and cool new things!

  2. as a geek girl, I married my geek guy, we were of very different genres of geek as I was a band, theater, rpg geek and he was a tech, science, gamer geek. I have found that over time we over lapped and grew into similar geeks, each of us providing new and exciting things for us to geek over. He got me into comp gaming with rpg's and I made him interested in theater and music. We also discovered new things to geek over together like things he had a mild interest in; comics, programming, and anything by Joss Whedon or staring Nathan Fillion or Summer Glau. The great thing about it is we never run out of things to discuss or geek about. I explain to him the folk lore references in many sci-fi/fantasy plots and he explains to me why Star Trek is far better a sci-fi than Star Wars. Together we mourn the loss of Firefly and our beloved Sci-Fi (SyFy) network. He benefits from me not getting jealous over his 24hr comp gaming sessions (most of the time I am there with him) and he doesnt mind all the broadway musicals I pack the ipod with. (he even has preferred actors for some of the shows) He may not be into partying with ppl as me, but I wouldn't trade that for the way he blows my mind any day.

  3. This made me interested in what I can only call "Identity-based humor" or perhaps "humor based in the use of symbols which represent a particular social identity". There seems to be something actually quite devious about this kind of humor because it is typically not funny to out-group members and it's humor among in-group members seems to derive solely from it representing a shared identity. I found one paper called "The Role of Humour In The Process Of Collective Identity Formation In Autonomous Social Movement Groups In Madrid" which provided some insight, but I expected this kind of research to be easier to find. There is a bunch of research into gender-identity-based humor that is essentially derogatory which relates in an inverse way I suppose. By joking about the deficiency of out-groups it brings some "cohesion" to the group identity; but what about joking about the superiority of the in-group, doesn't that result in the same elevated sense of worth within the social identity and relative to the out-group? It's like a back-door kind of prejudice that masquerades as something much more positive, IMHO. This is not the opinion of my employer or the organization through which the internet was accessed.

    • Well, sure it is. The thing is though, everyone needs something to feel good about. In general, jokes aren't a bad way to do. Group identity has been an incredibly powerful force throughout history- I think the question is finding appropriate outlets. Sure, there'll be people in any case that find themselves feeling superior. If you want to stay in geek-dom, think 'religious wars' because lord knows Geekdom has enough of them, or think the while cult of underground music that might still be a thing?

      In the end, I think jokes like these are mostly harmless. Backdoor prejudice for enjoying references within a singular group? Eh. Maybe. But then that is a thing that'll come with any sort of group identity, wouldn't it?
      Perhaps not taking ourselves too seriously is the best way to go about it. After all, many of these jokes have punchlines that base around the experiences of the members of the in-group being different from a group perceived more normal

      But I suppose I should try to consolidate my points. Basically, society today teaches that we should be proud of who we are. In order to be proud of being different, it almost seems to come with the expressed opinion that the 'normal' way is something to be looked down on. Maybe, if we all agreed that no one fit into a category, and that every interest were equally as valid and that groups in general were not useful, we could get rid of prejudices.

      But people stereotype because they're lazy, and group because we still like safety in numbers, and laugh at these jokes because feeling good about ourselves feels /good./ The trick, good sir, is to know everything with a little grain of salt

  4. I’ve been married to one for 17 years. We became friends because we’re both huge geeks and it spiraled from there. We never ever get bored.

  5. I'm part of a great geek couple. The best is, even if your not the same kind of geek, there is an understanding. The only boyfriend that ever understand why I have so many game and why I never sell them back to GameStop.

  6. I've been married to my geek husband for almost 10 years. He wasn't socialized as a kid, but doesn't mind when I drag him to the occasional party. I let him work on his flight simulator and he lets me watch my Jane Austen movies. We're like a really geeky version of Dharma and Greg. lol And we're raising two incredibly geeky boys. :)

  7. My boyfriend is the sweetest, funniest guy I've ever met. Sometimes he goes overboard with jokes on friends and doesn't realize it, but he's really outgoing, and he love Magic, online gaming, anime, theater, and lighting. I'm so lucky to have him, although I wish he didn't think that it was his fault every-time I'm sad or unhappy. He's SUPER attentive, and I couldn't ask for more.