Comments on: Lawyer’s Bosses Don’t Like Her Porn

By: Todd B Norris

Todd B Norris — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 15:22:00 +0000

I don't understand why you cannot be a top lawyer and a bit of a slut… i thought that is what lawyers ARE they provide service for money. And i TOTALLY disagree with your comments. If she is wanting to be a professional lawyer and a professional erotica writer, would there not be room for it. I don't understand peoples sexual kink on telling other people that there kinks are incorrect, and i do include religion in on that certain persuasion. I for one would think that a lawyer that is open about sexuality and experimentation could mean that he/she could be able to think "outside the box" (and yes there is a pun in there), and as long as he/she does not let it harm their other job, i.e. being a lawyer, which it does not seem to be, then i see no harm and no foul. But that is just someone that thinks that a lot of this suing and litigation that is happening in the world would be reduced if everyone just quit working if sex was "moral" and "ok", and just started fucking everyone else.

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By: Todd B Norris

Todd B Norris — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 14:22:00 +0000

I don’t understand why you cannot be a top lawyer and a bit of a slut… i thought that is what lawyers ARE they provide service for money. And i TOTALLY disagree with your comments. If she is wanting to be a professional lawyer and a professional erotica writer, would there not be room for it. I don’t understand peoples sexual kink on telling other people that there kinks are incorrect, and i do include religion in on that certain persuasion. I for one would think that a lawyer that is open about sexuality and experimentation could mean that he/she could be able to think “outside the box” (and yes there is a pun in there), and as long as he/she does not let it harm their other job, i.e. being a lawyer, which it does not seem to be, then i see no harm and no foul. But that is just someone that thinks that a lot of this suing and litigation that is happening in the world would be reduced if everyone just quit working if sex was “moral” and “ok”, and just started fucking everyone else.
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By: Casey

Casey — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 22:05:00 +0000

Are you asking if I think that it's okay for someone to write erotica? Sure. I also think that whatever kinky thing you like to do in your free time, your boss probably doesn't want you telling your clients all about it. I think it would be fantastic if people could write what they want and not be judged for it, but that's just not how the world works. It just happens that some of the people who might hire an expensive lawyer from a prestigious law firm are the sort of people who might be scandalized to find out that she posts naughty things on the internet and go find another lawyer. If she were a full time writer, or even if she had some job where people probably wouldn't care, then there wouldn't be a problem.

By: robert

robert — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 21:42:00 +0000

So, its all about what you hide. Not what you do. Public face and all. I think we have too much of that already, look at all the bailouts. If its ok for her to write it and put it out there then it should be ok for her to own it and not hide it. quote " On the one hand, I respect Ms. Dare’s right to write her porn. In fact, any quality issues aside, I applaud the creative endeavor, and given how many people out there like to read erotica, why not put it up on the net where other people can enjoy it? However, I cannot possibly imagine what possessed her to not only publish it under her real name, but to put it on a website with her full name in the URL."end quote. So is it then ok, as long as you can hide it and get away with it?

By: Jon Hartman

Jon Hartman — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 21:14:00 +0000

@LB they aren't telling her what she can or can't do with her personal life. They're just letting her know which parts are incompatible with her career at that firm.

Lesser companies might have just fired her.

By: Casey

Casey — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 21:05:00 +0000

Are you asking if I think that it’s okay for someone to write erotica? Sure. I also think that whatever kinky thing you like to do in your free time, your boss probably doesn’t want you telling your clients all about it. I think it would be fantastic if people could write what they want and not be judged for it, but that’s just not how the world works. It just happens that some of the people who might hire an expensive lawyer from a prestigious law firm are the sort of people who might be scandalized to find out that she posts naughty things on the internet and go find another lawyer. If she were a full time writer, or even if she had some job where people probably wouldn’t care, then there wouldn’t be a problem.

By: robert

robert — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:42:00 +0000

So, its all about what you hide. Not what you do. Public face and all. I think we have too much of that already, look at all the bailouts. If its ok for her to write it and put it out there then it should be ok for her to own it and not hide it. quote ” On the one hand, I respect Ms. Dare’s right to write her porn. In fact, any quality issues aside, I applaud the creative endeavor, and given how many people out there like to read erotica, why not put it up on the net where other people can enjoy it? However, I cannot possibly imagine what possessed her to not only publish it under her real name, but to put it on a website with her full name in the URL.”end quote. So is it then ok, as long as you can hide it and get away with it?

By: Jon Hartman

Jon Hartman — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 20:14:00 +0000

@LB they aren’t telling her what she can or can’t do with her personal life. They’re just letting her know which parts are incompatible with her career at that firm.

Lesser companies might have just fired her.

By: Mark

Mark — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 13:08:00 +0000

Well by publishing them under her real name, she is basically flaunting the porn under the noses of everyone so in that respect she is being unprofessional in her business life and she is totally screwing up her future career prospects.

I am all for doing whatever you want in your private life but for God's sake keep it in your private life! Invent an alias and keep your private life and your work life separate. Don't put it on your personal website and then dare your bosses to find it. Don't wave it under the noses of your clients either. She needs to grow up and act her age. She has a responsibility towards the company that she works for and by publishing this stuff under her real name, she has brought bad publicity upon the company she works for.

Now you might argue that the company did it to themselves but I would say that it doesn't matter. Even if the company hadn't done anything, it would have only been a matter of time before it all came out anyway. You can't be a "top lawyer" and…OK, I'll say it…a bit of a slut at the same time and expect to get away with it.

By: Mark

Mark — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 12:08:00 +0000

I am all for doing whatever you want in your private life but for God’s sake keep it in your private life! Invent an alias and keep your private life and your work life separate. Don’t put it on your personal website and then dare your bosses to find it. Don’t wave it under the noses of your clients either. She needs to grow up and act her age. She has a responsibility towards the company that she works for and by publishing this stuff under her real name, she has brought bad publicity upon the company she works for.

Now you might argue that the company did it to themselves but I would say that it doesn’t matter. Even if the company hadn’t done anything, it would have only been a matter of time before it all came out anyway. You can’t be a “top lawyer” and…OK, I’ll say it…a bit of a slut at the same time and expect to get away with it.

By: Preston L. Bannister

Preston L. Bannister — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 02:19:00 +0000

That would be "Overy" (rather than "Ovary") – an odd slip on your part.

Since there are mainstream novels just as racy as Dasha's stories, I don't think they really fit as "porn". (Unless you are from some remarkably conservative corner of this country – or the like.)

More likely the what embarrasses her employer's is not the sexual content of the stories.

By: Preston L. Bannister

Preston L. Bannister — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 01:19:00 +0000

That would be “Overy” (rather than “Ovary”) – an odd slip on your part.

Since there are mainstream novels just as racy as Dasha’s stories, I don’t think they really fit as “porn”. (Unless you are from some remarkably conservative corner of this country – or the like.)

More likely the what embarrasses her employer’s is not the sexual content of the stories.