Subscribe by EmailWhy Geeks Shouldn’t Change for Anybody
January 3, 2008 by Kiltak |If you are a geek, and you are with a non-geek significant other, chances are they will try to change you at a point in your relationship. (Okay, yes, the chances of a guy wanting to change a geeky girl into a non-geek is pretty low, but who knows… it might happen.)
Anyhow, the folks at Diggnation had an interesting discussion in their latest show about a geek that wants to marry a girl that just won’t understand him. I thought that a bit of conventional wisdom would be the perfect way to start the year.
Personally, I’m a very lucky guy; my wife has always been very respectful of my geekiness, even if causes conflicts on occasion. However, I know a few people who are living a real nightmare with their significant other. In some case, these conflicts are justified (16-hour gaming session anyone?), but in other cases, a geeky attitude doesn’t really hurt anybody, and can actually be fun.
Care to share your thoughts about how geek / non-geek relationships should be handled? The comments section is opened for discussion.
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So LOL and so true!
I can totally relate to that. My wife is so far away from geekdom she’s on another planet. Thankfully she hasn’t tried to change me. She probably knows that it is a lost cause.
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my wife definatly is not as geeky as I am but she does have some geek-ness in her so she lets me go off into my own world as long as I come over to her side from time to time.
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Now, I like my men geeky. I like ‘em pale and sarcastic and passionate about things. And playing WOW all day is fine, if there’s nothing else you’re supposed to be doing. If you’re supposed to be looking for a job, or you’ve told your significant other you will clean the appartment while she is at work and you have the day off, and instead you choose to WOW all day, or for days on end until the dishes pile up in the sink and the whole house smells like catbox, that crosses the line from being a geek to being a little boy in a man’s body.
If the non-geek can’t handle or wants to change the geeky behavior of the geek in the relationship, then it’s time for the non-geek to leave. The geekiness is part of who that person is, and if that is not ok with the other person, there’s nothing wrong with the non-geek, but obviously the geek was not meant for her. Fortunatley, both I and my SO are geeks to the core, so neither wants to change the other.
My wife’s not as geeky as I am. She’s just learned to accept it and she’s quite supportive at times. She’s recommended to many people. She’s a bit more social thamn I am. Not always financially but that’s another issue.
For me if you really are loved by a person, he will accept you for whatever you are. He shouldnt dictate you. He even more embrace your weaknesses.